I think its pretty obvious at this point that we are about to have two BABIES. No longer will we be a little family of three, we will be a family of FOUR! We are less than 4 months from our due date and things are getting REAL, REALLY fast!! :) Oh, and just for the record we are going to have TWO babies who are exactly 19 months apart (if baby number dos comes on its due date, that is.)
This is a shout out to all you mamma's out there who already have BABIES or who are about to have more than one child. There are tons of things running through my head as to how to properly prepare for this sweet child to come into the world... I thought I would throw a few questions out there and if anyone wants to throw some advice my way I would be more than willing to hear it.
-Strollers: I already know that I do NOT want a side by side stroller... we have some friends who have one and I can hardly maneuver the single one we have- much less the double wide one they have. I also tend to always bump into things in stores in our single stroller... how could I ever manage a double-wide. ha! {just being honest, nothing against those who have them!} So... here comes the question- what do you have? Do you like it? What do you plan on getting? What do you wish you would have gotten -- if you don't love yours?
This is what we have and used for Raleigh Grace as an infant. We absolutely love it and will be using for baby#2 most likely... |
-Diapers: ick, I hate to even bring this one up. TWO children in diapers?! Hopefully not for long though. I would have never imagined writing this in a post but my friend Stephanie posed a question: should she start cloth diapering now that she is going to have two children in diapers. Actually she titled the post: "Convnice me I should go cloth" ... I really have little to no interest in cloth diapering (for my kiddos) because I feel like I can't even stay on top of the laundry and house work that I currently have much less adding more to the mix-- but is it worth the money to add a few more loads of laundry? If significant enough I might would consider. I can't wait to read the comments on her post but if you have any feel free to leave them for me as well!
our faves since day 1! |
-Sleeping/Cribs/Beds: First off, we will not be moving Raleigh Grace to a "big girl bed" anytime soon. She is an amazing sleeper (sleeping 10-13 hours a night) and I refuse to mess with a good thing! She slept in our room for the first 5ish months in the bouncer, in the pack n play-- and if baby number two likes the bouncer like RG we will be doing the same- otherwise we plan on just putting the baby in the pack n play in our room. I also feel it is important to be transparent about our living situation. We are going to be in somewhat of a "grid-lock" situation when baby number two comes. We are currently living in a really nice condo that is two bedrooms. We are in one room and RG is in the other. Like I said earlier, we plan on keeping #2 in our room for a little while so consider the following questions to be applied several months down the road... The crib that RG is in right now is a regular crib that will not transition into a toddler bed. We also have a day bed with a trundle in her room (see pics of her nursery here). What do you think about having both kids in the same room (obviously when #2 is around 6+ months old)? I don't see much of an option otherwise. So, how should they sleep? Do you think RG will be ready for a "big girl" bed by that time? She will be 2 years old plus or minus a few months. Or... should we bite the bullet and purchase a second crib? If we were to go that route we would purchase a convertible crib that will eventually be a toddler bed, and a twin headboard later. (or is that totally unnecessary considering we have the day bed?...). Should we just move the pack n play to RG's room when #2 is older, and pray, pray, pray that they both sleep well? I'm really at a loss on this issue and most of me is just planning to play it by ear and take it a day at the time. Obviously, K and I would love to purchase a larger home but with us still owning the house in TX that's not totally an option right now. The lease on that house is up in the end of April so pray for wisdom for us in that situation-- I'm not sure if its a feasible idea to sell it or to continue to try and rent it and build up more equity in it...? (Not trying to open that can of worms in this post -- just letting you know we could use some prayers in that department of our life.)
see day bed and crib... as you can see there isn't a lot of extra room for a second crib but we could make do if need be (or take the day bed out) |
-Diaper Bag: This issue isn't really a huge priority to me but I just thought I would include it to get some input if you have it. I love my current Coach diaper bag (seen in crib above). I really do! But... I feel like its almost already maxed out. Do I need to get something larger? What did you do? I have looked at the Petunia Pickle Bottom boxy backpacks and I'm obsessed. If I had $180 dollars and had no clue what to do with it I probably would have already purchased one. They also make the PPB boxy backpack (Abundance) in an extra large size-- is all that really necessary? Should I hang tight with what I have and make do- or indulge in a new bag?
The left one is the Abundance Backpack, the right is the regular Petunia Pickle Bottom Boxy Backpack
-Baby Showers: How do you feel about having a baby shower for the second baby? Especially when they are this close in age? Go for it? Or hold off?
Although those are most of the questions I am throwing around right now, I am sure that many more will come up over the next few months. Those of you who are moms of multiples, I really applaud you. I need you to impart ALL of your wisdom to me... seriously. :) Thanks for all of your feedback in advance, I can't wait to bounce ideas off of everyone-- if there is something I left off feel free to advise me in that department too!
OH! And if you aren't a mom or a mom with multiple kids I would still love to hear what you think!!! :)
Here are just a few friends who are going to be going from one to two (or two to three etc. ;) ) in the next several months... let me know if I didn't include you... I thought it would be fun to see who else will be going through this at the same time to know that we aren't alone. I love knowing that I will have a support group when the baby gets here!
Stephanie at Blawnde's Blog
Natalie at Extraordinary Love
Beth Ann at My Life More Abundant
We have a queen bed in our nursery, too! It works well! :)
ReplyDeleteCheck out my post from today to see the stroller we hope to get. ;) I know two people who have it and both say they tried others and this one is unmatched. They love it. I really like how the seats move in different directions. Right now Babies R Us is having a trade in sale where you take in any old car seat, stroller, etc. and you can get 25% off any baby gear item (doesn't have to be the same type as you take in).
ReplyDeleteI say wait on the crib and I bet by 2, RG will be able to transition to that daybed with a rail with as good a sleeper as she is.
Diapers- I did cloth but I can't say I'm a huge proponent. It's kind of a hassle in different ways. I suggest you start using Target brand...so much cheaper!!! ;) The babies won't notice a difference.
So funny that we did similar posts on the same day!
Oh! And I have a boxy backpack! ;) I love it....but honestly I wonder about it with two...it really isn't that big inside in my opinion. I would probably go with the bigger one!
ReplyDeleteI debated so hard on the whole baby shower deal. We brought Annalee home on Axle's 2nd birthday so he was just a few days shy of 2 when I had her. I decided to have another shower based on something a friend told me. She said that showers were to celebrate the birth of that child so why would you celebrate the birth of one and not the other. Such a good point I though. I say definitely have a shower!!!
ReplyDeleteI have pretty much the exact same questions as you! Actually, the stroller is one I hadn't thought of yet, so thanks for reminding me. We used the same stroller for Chloe as you showed above.
ReplyDeleteWe are going to a cloth diaper class this weekend and will make our decision then if we're going to go forward with the switch or not. I really think we are, for no other reason than a money saver.
Ugh, the cribs. I 'hope' to be in a new house shortly after baby boy is here (crazy, I know). With that in mind, I've been told bringing home a new baby is a big adjustment for toddlers. I'm afraid of changing too many things all at once for Chloe - new house, new bed, new baby. So for that reason alone, we might stick with the crib a little longer, as long as she's not crawling out. But it sure would be nice to transition her in time to use her crib with the new baby, who I assume will sleep in our room for the first three or four months.
I have no clue on the diaper bags! The one we used with Chloe, which I can't even remember what it is, just a canvas one from BuyBuyBaby, worked great, but I would kind of like a nicer one that doesn't look so diaper bag'ish. But I also don't want to spend an arm and a leg on one either. Still looking for the perfect one.
We might be able to help answer your questions better if we knew BOY OR GIRL MISSY!!!! :) Will you be sharing soon??
I like the double strollers where the older one can sit on a sort of bench seat, or stand up to ride, like thishttp://content.onestepahead.com/assets/images/product/detail/13051_1.jpg . It looks like fun. I dislike the ones where one baby is "bottom bunk" the view has got to be terrible! Like this http://www.camppatton.com/2012/12/quirks.html
ReplyDeleteI'd be glad to be your go-to girl for cloth diapers. We're really happy that we're using them, but there are some drawbacks too.
Clean out your diaper bag before getting a new one. Make sure that there's nothing in there that doesn't need to be, and it's not like you need two of everything. What's a couple more diapers in the new baby's size and a change of clothes? I think you can make that bag work if you want, but maybe what you really want is an excuse for a new bag and I totally get that! I quit using a diaper bag for Will months ago, but my next one is going to be a backpack style.
RG will probably be old enough to move to a big girl bed by then, I bet. And if you keep the baby in with you a little longer than 6 months, what's the harm in that? Think about getting a side car cosleeper if you don't want to use the pack n play for only that.
We have the Contours double stroller, it is HUGE! But, it maneuvers very well for something so big. And I love that I can face the kids together or away from each. So many choices!
ReplyDeleteAnd I LOVE my PPB diaperbag. I have the sashay satchel. You should hold out for the outlet sale though. I bought mine for almost half price and think I will buy myself another one sometime...thinking the boxy backpack next time. Do you need it?! Probably not, but it's always nice to have something for "you". Totally wait for the outlet sale though.
I didn't realize your two were going to be 19 months exactly...Maddox & Emma are 19 months as well. Emma will be 26 months older than this one.